Monday, August 13, 2007

Anger Management gone wrong!

We all have a tendency to loathe certain media personalities. Its not that we hate the celeberty or politician its the fact that we have to see them on our televisions and computer screens 25 hours a day and 8 days a week.

If we really think about it we know that these iconic figures are just people like me and you. Well I found several online anger management games that do not allow you to do much thinking at all.

These games are designed to mulitlate or maim some of the public figure we love to hate. But be warned some of these game can get pretty graphic.

If you really want to learn how to manage your anger visit and play Lava Flow-The Anger Management Game

NFL cracks down on disruptive palyers

After a year of leading the sports world in criminal accusations and conviction the NFL is making an attempt to crack down and better educate disruptive players.

In his first year as commissioner, Roger Goodell has instituted very tough discipline tougher policy. In addition the National Footabll League is making efforts to educate their employees by adding a Conduct Management Program of eight mandatory one-hour seminars for rookies as well as any veterans referred by the league office. The NFL has chosen experts to conduct sessions on, among other things, stress and time management; anger management; impulse control; and decision making.

Daybreak Counseling Service

Friday, August 10, 2007

Decision House

Imagine a marriage in turmoil, husbands swinging bats and wives hurling insults multilply that by five and there you have Decision House.

Decision House is a syndicated My network TV reality show that asks Judge Toler and a panel of experts to “help couples on the brink of disaster tackle issues ranging from financial hardships to infidelity.”

The crucible of each episode is a three-day immersion in nonstop surveillance and counseling at a place called “Decision House,” where 27 cameras follow the couple.After three days, the panel issues a verdict on whether the couple should stick it out or get a divorce.

Daybreak Counseling Service a Los Angeles based Anger Mangement Education Center has been asked to intervene between a feuding couple.

Stay Tuned

Thursday, August 9, 2007

How to teach anger management to your child

Most of us recognize the continuing escalation of violence around us, due to intolerance, and many of us blame it on somebody else. Parents teach their children, all the time, and when one of us displays “road rage,” while our child is in the car, we teach a brand new skill set.

Although, road rage is inappropriate behavior, at any time, and can get you killed, most children who are exposed to it, will duplicate the actions of their parents, when they are old enough to drive.

So the first step, is to set an example and, possibly, use some of these ideas, for yourself. Studies show that anger causes atherosclerosis, the build-up of plaques in the arteries, that is a major factor in developing high blood pressure, heart disease, heart attack, and premature death.

Also, during a temper tantrum, adrenaline and blood pressure levels rise beyond normal. This behavior is more dangerous to parents bodies due to the normal wear and tear already existing.

Now, you may be convinced that anger can kill you, but let’s look at one more factor. You could hurt someone else, find yourself in prison, or get yourself killed due to inciting violence against others. There are other people, who are having difficulty dealing with anger management too.

Back to our children: All children need exercise and they are naturally full of energy. Look at any other species, and you will see the same behavior.
Should we drug our dogs, cats, and parrots, when they display youthful exuberance?

Children have to run, jump, and shout. So let them play in the back yard, in a park, and get them involved in sports, Yoga, dance, or martial arts. You will never regret letting your child enjoy life, constructively learn in the process, and just be a kid.

For all of us, there is a time to be quiet and a time to shout. Children need years to learn this, so let’s keep them active in the process. Keep them away from the television, Internet, and video games, except for “rainy days.”
Coloring books, board games, and reading are also good activities for rainy days.

A heavy bag is a great tool for letting anger out. You and your child can use it together. You can learn to punch and kick it, for the aerobic benefits, as well.
If you have a friend who is a boxer or martial artist, you could get some pointers. After just a 20-minute session, I guarantee you, and your child, will have dealt with anger - there will be little, if any, left.

Teach your child forgiveness, through your own example. I am not asking you to let people walk all over you. However, let grudges go; life is really too short to keep a feud going.

You can also control your child’s “circle of friends,” just by getting him or her involved in, group activities such as: League sports, dance, yoga, or martial arts. The parents who have their children in these activities want the best for them and are willing to sacrifice their time, or money, to get it.

This will keep your child busy, happy, and active, with a pre-selected crowd of friends, who have parents that care. This is a “win – win” situation and well worth the investment.

This is not to say that every child you run into, at these functions, will be perfect, but in the above mentioned activities, all of them are structured, adult-supervised, and rules for behavior are in place. This form of organization becomes a habit, your child will follow these guidelines, and bring them home.

Here is another idea that will help. Have your child take care of a pet or a plant, every day. Children love to care for animals or plants, but they still need supervision. The result of this will be, your child learns compassion.

Compassion will keep anger “in check” every time.

Article Source:

Paul Jerard, is a co-owner and the director of Yoga teacher training at: Aura Wellness Center, in North Providence, RI. He has been a certified Master Yoga teacher since 1995. He is a master instructor of martial arts, with multiple Black Belts, four martial arts teaching credentials, and was recently inducted into the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame. He teaches Yoga, martial arts, and fitness to children, adults, and seniors in the greater Providence area. Recently he wrote: Is Running a Yoga Business Right for You? For Yoga students, who may be considering a new career as a Yoga teacher.

Wednesday, August 8, 2007

Why are healthy boundaries an essential part of anger management?

By Devora Donohoo

Healthy boundaries allow a person limitations and guidelines to live their life by. The idea that love is unconditional, throughout whatever hardship or trial, is a fairy-tale fantasy and is unfortunately an unhealthy way to approach relationships. Self-preservation within a relationship, basically providing a balance between separateness and togetherness, is what relationship experts agree is the key to a long-lasting relationship. In simple words, this means that a person withholds their own identity within the relationship, including their values, standards, and expectations. A person with healthy boundaries will have values that they will not compromise regardless of the situation.

Again, how does this relate to anger management? For example, if a person sets a boundary that aggression, name-calling, degrading remarks, and other forms of abuse is unacceptable and will not be tolerated, they will hold that standard in a relationship. By openly expressing a person’s boundaries early in the relationship, their partner is able to clearly know what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. Communication will help prevent feelings of resentment and possible underlying anger.

The bottom line is abuse, whether it be physical, verbal or emotional, is unacceptable in any form and should not have a part in a relationship. If you commit to that boundary of never allowing aggression or degrading remarks in your relationship, you will help preserve yourself and your relationship.

Devora Donohoo M.A. is a certified anger management instructor and teaches anger management classes at Daybreak Counseling service.

Thursday, August 2, 2007

Anger Management for Couples

Anger Managment for Couples is a growing sub-niche within the field of anger management education. Many couples are becoming frustrated by the passive approach offered by traditional marriage counselors. Some of the comments made by couples struggling with anger and rage in their relationships are,

“Our old therapist just listend”

“We are tired of talking we need tools”

“Can your give us something practical?”

In essance what these couples are saying is “we are not looking for couples counseling or marriage therapy we are looking for anger mangement.”

An anger management class is a skills based training. Anger Managemenet classes systematically focus on building communcation skills, improving emotional intelligence, teaching stress management and limiting verbal and physical aggression.

The skills learned in a couples anger management course will not only enhance a romantic relationship but it will produce benefits within a career and assist in dealings with difficult friends and family members.